People have qualified teenage years as a time of discovery, confusion and self-exploration. Teenagers want to experience different things and want to have meaning. I suppose it is a sort of "early-life crisis" when we think about it coldly. In the article presented by professor Fleming earlier last week, we explore why competitiveness and need to get higher education make students feel unworthy.
The author of the article does this in a neat way. Instead of writing it off as a "them" problem, she uses the words "us" and "our", because in fact, the problem isn't happening solely in Palo Alto, it's happening everywhere.
And here is the most surprising part: Adults still do not know the problem. As the author mentions,
"Over the last year, our community came together to demand more mental health resources and support for our kids, to create an awareness of such resources, and to try to reduce the stigma around asking for help. School leaders adjusted high school’s start time to a later hour, to align with the sleeping patterns that pediatricians say are healthy for teens, and capped the number of hours of homework that our high schoolers can be subjected to each week. Adults began listening more to kids." (Lythcott-Haims, 2015)
They anger themselves when someone comes in to tell them the real problem. So what does this tell us about current society? For one, we're too focused on schooling. Unfortunately, there is no easy solution to fix this, because it is entrenched into our roots. Let's review how life works in North America:
- Go to elementary and secondary school from the age of 5 until the age of 18.
- Grade 11 and 12. Here is where stress begins:
- Make sure to get the grades because otherwise you will never get into a good college or university.
- Pick what you want to do FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE (At a young age too).
- Apply to colleges and universities. If you do not go to an elite school, you can forget being successful or obtaining a good job (if any) by the end of it.
- Go to college or university. Stress out for the next 3-8 years of your life attending lectures and writing papers, going to labs or doing a group project. (All the while being told that this is the best part of your life)
- Graduate college or university.Time for the job hunt.
- Let's be realistic. You will never find a job, even if you come from an elite school.
- There are no jobs because people do not want to retire. (I'm looking at you baby-boomers)
- All jobs require 5-10 years of experience (meaning you should have started working when you were 12 years old)
- You need the right peace of paper (Those employers are only looking for certain names and certain grades).
- Work...work....work...
- Retire at the age of 84 because nobody can get a pension or have any money to live adequately past retirement.
- The vicious cycle continues.
(Sorry, went on a rant there.)
My point is, we have such high expectations for the youth because we know how difficult their lives will be. It already is. I remember getting these exact thoughts when I was younger, and some of these thoughts reminisce because this is our reality. We grew up in a generation where our parents believe they gave us everything and we were spoon-fed. But look at the state of the job market, the world economy and the state of our environment....We are expected to GET or BECOME something, with nothing.